Living in balance or dancing with chaos

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‍Life is a balancing game...

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At some point we have all experienced an imbalance, an impression of not being in one's place, of having been carried away or mistreated by events. How many times can we find ourselves more or less destabilized by events to the point of saying that it would be better to learn to dance with the surprises that life throws at us? Why is it so complicated to maintain balance and to show a kind of mental and emotional serenity in the face of life's vagaries?

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And you? What image does your life reflect on you? What is the impact of what is happening around you on your mood during the day? What can affect your emotional state and to what level or degree? A dispute within your couple or your family? A completely unexpected change in life? A failed friendship, an aborted professional project, a romantic breakup?

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‍Let's look at the opposites...

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The experience of imbalance occurs very early in our life and it must be said that it makes us see all the colors. Falls, disappointments, tears, injuries... everything is there in our world of little heroes. Maybe we don't remember when we were taught to stand and walk on our own two feet. And even if some succeeded more quickly than others, we all had to prove ourselves, until we discovered this feeling of balance. In short, the world of childhood was a real challenge for our air of novices in the field!

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Let's get back to balance...

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When we talk about balance, we tend to visualize a body standing, stable on land. For example, walking, biking, driving a motorcycle, dancing on spikes or roller skating are activities that require the concept of balance and stability. However, when we say about someone who they are balanced In his life, it's not to mean the fact that he can stand on his own two legs or that he rides a bike or roller skates... Rather, it is said to refer to a internal state, this impression of calm and serenity that the person exudes and that is reflected on others; that is to say, in this sense, the concept of balance rather represents an internal posture -emotional and mental-, which rubbed off on aspects of our physical body (relaxed, measured, peaceful effect). Therefore, although invisible, the state of balance (interiority) is indeed there, because we note that the balanced person exudes a luminous, benevolent aura, a kind of beneficial energy.

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‍In the footsteps of the tightrope walker...

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Balancing is a key discipline in circus arts that allows you to achieve technical feats by stabilizing your body in incredible positions on various objects. The tightrope walker when he moves on a wire stretched to a certain height from the ground, he becomes a tightrope walker. The term “tightrope walker” (from Latin “Funambulus” and composed of “finished” Which means rope and “Ambular” which means walking), refers to one who is very proficient in the art of balance. In fact, even if our life is not an artistic achievement, we must learn to juggle anything that can destabilize us, like the tightrope walker whose every step threatens his prowess. Moreover, if we establish this parallel, it is not to deduce that the events that make up our life path constitute points on a straight line. Based on the complexity of our emotional states and our rational journeys, our life is not a linear story of moving from point A to point B until the end of our days. When we act, we do not draw shapes, but channels of communion, points of contact with the world around us without geometric support and without rules of conformity. Our history then becomes a random expression of fusion with things, a blend of impulses specific to our ardor, our finesse or our clumsiness.

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Throughout his journey on this Earth, Man does everything in his power to reach a state of balance. It must be said that he believes that this balance does exist. To do this, he establishes controlling relationships with the things around him and with everything that constitutes a tangible (concrete - material) proof ofpoise, the latter being rooted in the mores of the modern social model as mercantile conformism (identification of cultural belonging). Apart from this search for comfort in any form of possession (roof, car, salary, savings, all kinds of products and services etc.), he is also looking for a sense of security through its interpersonal relationships. In addition, he expects this emotional security be consistent with the one he integrated or learned in his family. This need for security is so strong for him that, if he does not receive the expected “rate” of balance, which will cause him concern, he is even able -more or less unconsciously-, to set up asymmetric relationships with the people around him (control links) to overcome the anxiety generated by this lack!

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However, there is an inherent paradox in this human attitude aimed at balance. He evokes such fervour in achieving his goal that he ends up creating unbalanced relationships both with objects and with his peers. As a result, he is trapped in a pretense of security that sooner or later will lead to a disaster (loss of physical, emotional, and mental bearings), since the intention to balance is confused with the desire for control caused by fear, anxiety, and fear.

‍On the paradox of balance...

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Let's think about it for a moment! What would be the point of living under the guarantee of a certain balance, if all our experiences had the same flavor, that of a firm and reassuring fixity, but which would be terribly lacking in spontaneity, color and novelty? A life devoted to the consistency that balance brings would obviously condemn us to boredom. Besides, is it really balance that we are looking for or strong sensations, a whirlwind of passion (s) capable of making us vibrate while causing us to be out of balance? Live an exhilarating life! To be a change of scenery, to rub shoulders with chaos with its infinity of possibilities, to dance according to the moods of our creative imagination, to lose yourself in it and then to find yourself again...

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Consistent with the nature of becoming, balance loses its value if it is acquired without the inherent principle of the risk of imbalance. If the modalities of its acquisition were easy to achieve, balance would not be of interest to us, because it would not involve the dynamics of our faculties or our taste for effort. However, each of us wants to be special, to realize ourselves like no one else and to live a unique life. In this case, what would be the “moral” or “market” value of balance if it were given to everyone from the start and with the same dosage? Let's take the example of a single painting compared to a painting that exists in several copies. Are their aesthetic/artistic and commercial values the same? Would having one or the other be the same thing? Of course not!

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End clap...

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In short, we deduce that balance interests us for the moderating effect it gives us in order to better manage our fear of the unknown and our existential anxiety. But it is of interest to us above all because it is difficult to achieve within the framework of a healthy relationship between oneself and oneself and others. We can therefore see that its value is expressed from its opposite (the imbalance). In addition, it should be noted that the effects of balance are not sustainable, because balance and the resulting state of security do not represent an irreversible reality. You cannot capitalize on balance just as you cannot capitalize on the pleasure of having achieved it. There will be times when you will lose it only to finally find it. Moreover, it is this ability to dance with moments of balance and imbalance that is constantly valued by our ability to live well. If we take the example of walking, where each step prepares and introduces the other while leaving our body in suspense for a measurement, to be in balance is to accept imbalance as an intrinsic value of our happiness.

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